ODE TO FABULOUS, CREATIVE WOMEN
November 22nd, 2011 by Diana Whitney as published in the Brattleboro Reformer
|Diana Whitney ready to go WILD!|
These are only a very few of the talented, inspiring women I know. None of them are getting awards, accolades, fame or fortune for their efforts (at least not yet)– but that’s not the point. The point is simply to create, to express yourself, to be in that flow state of doing what you love (even if it’s an hour, every week or month). If I could I would pay homage to each and every woman who is LIVING WELL– not perfectly, of course, not like some celebrity, happy-family, get-rich story in People magazine, but as best as she can, often stumbling, sometimes dancing, one day at a time.
I must also give a big shout-out to my more renowned artist friends– Tiffany Hilton, an amazing potter who runs her own business. Her smooth, robin’s egg blue hand-thrown mugs are my favorite for drinking hot chai. And Evie Lovett, a world traveler whose latest photography exhibit (backstage with drag queens) opens minds and moves hearts. And Suzanne Kingsbury, a brilliant novelist and editor who inspires other writers (like me) to express themselves through words and take joy in the creative process.
|Photo by Julia Sabot of Diana Whitney & her child|
So often, we women are damn hard on ourselves. Self-laceration is our default mode. We feel we need to be all things to all people, as Elizabeth Gilbert smartly observes in a recent article about failure. We expect daily greatness in our work, our relationships, our parenting, our homemaking, even our yoga practice! And then we condemn ourselves for not having airbrushed, perfectly-toned bodies on top of all we do.
Well, I don’t want perfection in my friends and sisters. Perfection is boring, cold, inaccessible. (“Perfection is terrible/ It cannot have children,” wrote Sylvia Plath in a poem).
I want my friends to be the imperfect, unique individuals they are. When I see them, I see big smiles and warm arms, not the few wrinkles (endearing) or the little muffin-top (sexy) they might occasionally worry about.
THANK YOU, Fabulous Women, for being you. Thanks for helping take care of my kids, lifting me up when I’m down, listening to my worries, and encouraging me in all my endeavors.
So now I want to know: Who are the women who inspire you? How do your friends give you support?
Diana Whitney is a freelance writer, yoga teacher and mother of two in Brattleboro, Vermont. In February 2009, Diana emerged from The Baby Cave and started writing Spilt Milk, a bi-monthly parenting column in The Brattleboro Reformer and The Rutland Herald. She’s now a commentator for Vermont Public Radio and a lovely friend.